The Power
of Love - Dating Smart
by:
Jill
Dellamalva
You don’t need to depend
on fate to bring “The One”
to your doorstep. You might
have to wait a very long
time.
You don’t have to be the
prettiest girl or the most
handsome guy to be a
successful dater. You don’t
need a huge bank account.
You don’t have to drive a
new sports car, live in a
large home, have the best
sense of humor, or the most
confidence. These things are
all desirable; but chances
are, they won’t keep the
target of your affection
around forever.
So what is it that you
need to get and keep your
love around? The answer is
simple.
Power.
Many people looking for
relationships are searching
for someone to complete
them, to fill in what is
lacking in their own lives.
A smart dater pays attention
to detail, determines what
it is that the other person
is lacking, and ultimately
provides it. A smart dater
knows that when you are a
source of something another
person needs to be happy,
you have power over them.
The first step to
achieving power and becoming
a smart dater is assessing
the personality of the
person you want to be with.
You must zone in on the
characteristic that defines
the person most. Then, use
your observations about
their personality to
determine what the person
needs in his or her life to
be happy. Finally, provide
it.
Take, for example, the
aggressive personality. If
you’re in love with The
Aggressor, you know that he
or she isn’t a bit shy. The
Aggressor knows what he or
she is after, and thrives on
the challenge of attaining
it. Love with The Aggressor
can be compared to a sport,
and The Aggressor is looking
to win. Like in any sport,
an easy victory can be quite
boring and quick. Your task
is to give the Aggressor a
challenge. Do not let your
heart be an easy win. If you
do, the Aggressor will
simply move on to the next
person. When the Aggressor
leaves you a voice mail to
call them back, forget to
call. When the Aggressor
asks you out for a date,
once in a while tell them
that you are too busy. Be
moody, selfish, and
difficult from time to time.
Now, don’t be completely
mean – remember, you must
give kindness and affection
to The Aggressor as much as
you take it away. This will
drive The Aggressor insane,
and cause him or her to lose
focus of the game. In no
time, you’ll be holding the
trophy.
Perhaps your love
interest is not The
Aggressor. Perhaps he or she
is reserved and shy. This
personality type tends to be
innocent, and maybe lacking
in solid relationship
experience. You job, then,
is to initiate The Quiet One
into the realm of
relationships and dating.
Give The Quiet One something
to get excited about. Shower
The Quiet One with frivolous
gifts and attention.
Approach The Quiet One with
zest, energy, and an
ultra-positive attitude
about life. Essentially,
bring The Quiet One out of
his or her shell, making
them feel comfortable with
you. In return, The Quiet
One will become almost
dependant on you for fun,
activity, and love.
There are a myriad of
personality types you will
find out in the world.
Another is The Snob. This
person needs an average Joe
or Jane to bring them down
to earth. They won’t want to
stoop to the level of giving
you a second look – but be
persistent. The Snob’s
affection is earned. The
more affection you give, the
more flattered The Snob will
become. This is because The
Snob, by trait, likes to be
given things. Instead of
spoiling the Snob with
things he or she already
has, provide something
unique. Cook The Snob
romantic dinners at home,
and skip the fancy
restaurants. Pick the female
Snob wildflowers instead of
buying traditional roses.
The Snob can then brag to
other Snobs that he or she
has someone “different” than
everyone else. And as you
know, Snobs always like to
have what everyone else
doesn’t.
There is also The Soap
Opera Star. If you have the
saintly qualities needed to
love The Soap Opera Star,
more power to you. This
person eats, sleeps, and
breathes drama. Take the
normal ups and downs in
life, and multiply them by
1000. Such is the life of
The Soap Opera Star. The
Soap Opera Star misplaces
his golf club, and
everything that happens from
that point on in the day is
absolutely ruined. Don’t be
surprised if The Soap Opera
Star takes his or her
troubles out on you. If you
desire to love this gem,
patience, understanding
(even if you must pretend)
and the ability to console
are qualities you have to
put forth. The Soap Opera
Star will end up completely
in love with you. If you
decide to leave The Soap
Opera Star, he or she will
stalk you.
Another popular
personality is The
Complainer. Everything
annoys The Complainer. You
can tell The Complainer that
he or she looks nice today,
and they will respond with a
very serious, “Why do you
have to lie to me? I gained
5 pounds in the last week,
my pants look too short, and
I’m having a bad hair day. I
definitely know I can’t
trust you to tell me the
truth.” If you truly love
The Complainer, you will
never take their words to
heart. You will also keep
providing them with more
topics to complain about,
like a drug supply to an
addict. Bring up topics that
you know they love to moan
about. They, in turn, will
provide you with hours of
one-on-one conversation.
You’d better have a good ear
to listen, and be able to
support them in their
outlandish claims. Don’t
expect to do too much
talking yourself. The
Complainer will love you to
death. Literally.
All in all, no matter
what type of person you are
trying to win over, you can
do it with a little bit of
common sense and
consideration. Think your
way through the situation.
That’s all it takes. The
power of love is in your
hands. |
